the.nurse- unfortunately, the pressure to make a statement is not from the kallah or chosson, but rather from the parents. Parents feel the need to live up to society norms…
However, everything else that gets bought for a kallah e.g. cloths, housewares etc.- that is the pressure of the kallah. If the kallah insists on a lower standard in such items, it would ease the pressure & debt. (I don’t think the kallah has an influence over which hall to choose etc.)