You can make a wedding for a lot less than 10K, its just not going to have a lot of people at it. To have a wedding you need
- The couple
- A rabbi
- A kettubah (printed)
- A glass of wine (or grape juice)
- 10 men for a minyan and a small meal for them
Outside the frum world many people get married at city hall, and somehow survive. Now I’m not suggesting that people start going that route but the option is real. There is nothing to say you can’t make a party for 40 instead of 400.