I understand that no one *wants* to make a wedding like that — but sometimes you have to choose the option that is the lesser of two “evils.” Either you go heavily into debt for what is, in essence, a one day celebration* and have that affect you for years to come, or have a smaller wedding and simply live within your means.
The Wolf
* It’s been my experience that aside from the couple, their immediate relatives and a friend or two that no one remembers individual weddings after a few years anyway — they begin to blur into one in people’s memories.