What about these questions about the family for a shidduch: (these are real questions that could be asked about a potential shidduch)
1)Who is their Rov?
2)Did the family eat dinner together during the week or just on shabbos?
3)Did the mother stay home with the children, or did they have a baby sitter growing up?
4)Do they live within their means?
5)What is their attitude towards potential baalei teshuvah?i.e. having them in their home for a meal on shabbos?
6)What is their involvment in the community?
7)Who are their friends?
8)Is the aura in the home more laid back or more intense?
yes some of these are vague, but I know some people who would like to ask these (not me yet my children have a while to go…)