I wasn’t spared “from all that” and I appreciate my wife much more because of how hard she was to find.
I’m sure you meant that you appreciate your wife more than you would have if you had not gone through the shidduch process — and not that you appreciate your wife more than I do mine, right? 🙂
In any event, it’s a personal thing. If that’s what causes you to appreciate your wife and enhance your shalom bayis and relationship — then all the more power to you.
The Wolf