“When I ask a rav a question, if I don’t understand the reason I ask, and debate, and there are times when the rav would backtrack once I inputted a point he didn’t think about. That’s how guys work. go into a Beis Medrash and you’ll see guys arguing and yelling at each other for hours on end. I know it’s not “girlie” but that is how things happen in the halachic world.”
That’s not what I observe. What I see are men addressing the Rav in the third person out of respect; standing when he walks into the room and definitely not arguing with him on a matter of halacha.
Yes, with your chavrusa you would argue, but not your Rav.
But this is off topic for this thread, which is about tzinus, modesty – walking modestly with your God – humbly – not arrogantly.