because people judge others by how they dress and act and people should dress and act according to how they want to be looked at.
So what you are saying is that I have to dress to your perceptions? Sorry, thats not happening. I dress according to halacha and then according to the situation I am in. I am not going to dress for your prejudices and ill concieved notions, when they arent against halacha. It might be time to be introspective and say “Why am I judging a person like this? What middah do I have to change, rather than trying to get them to change something that isnt against halacha.”
Why should my friend care what random people in Monsey think? Is he rebelling against society? NO. Is he doing anything wrong? NO. If people want to think he is doing something wrong, that is up to them. But what ever happened to being dan lekaf zechus? Especially when it comes to a non-halachic issue…
There is a difference if you see someone you know do something spitefully – for example, a teenager putting on a pair of jeans to spite his parents. The jeans arent the actual issue here, its the rebellion. Please learn to seperate the two.