Note on prior comment: lashon Hara/ Motsei Shem Ra, not getting into technical details.
flatbush27:
You know what the sad part is? I agree with you 100% that jeans are not the malbush of a dignified person. I just will not force my own chumros/gedarim on others, which is why I turn out more “left wing” when (I think) I’m more “right wing”.
I once heard from a famous rav, a mechaber of many seforim and recognized thoughout Klall Yisroel on both sides of the aisle the following statement on Rosh Hashana:
(may be quoting a little off, Bemechilas kevodo)
“People like keeping chumros. If only people would keep Shulchan Aruch instead of Chumros, Klal Yisroel would be much better off and Moshiach would come. Just the four chalakim of Shulchan Aruch is hard enough”.
I also think doing things just for the purpose of “shiduchim” is somewhat silly (as opposed to raising yourself), but others do disagree. Maybe I’ll start a new thread on that.