ames – whatever works for everyone is fine by me. :o) I saw the comment by mod55 and said why not. I didn’t notice your subsequent posts.
As long as people are working in anyway to improve themselves and are sharing Torah thoughts to do this (and certainly by learning Torah) they are doing much more than a small chesed not only for themselves but for everybody. – essentially, these are not mutually exclusive areas to work upon.
in the list that you provided you can group certain areas together (see below as an example) and as a person improves one area, the others areas should follow along.
example for someone who masters point #7: they are going to be more proactive in avoiding #’2 and 4, and increasing #’s 3, 5, 6 and 8 which will ultimately or at least should hopefully positivelty impact #1)
1) ga’ava (includes: 3,4,5,6,8)
2) leitzanut (includes: 2,4,7)
3) small chasadim to others (includes: 1,2,4,5,7,8)
4) not answering back when someone insults/hurts/embarrasses you (includes: 1,2,3,6,7,8)
5) show appreciation for small kindnesses (includes: 1,3,6,7,8)
6) thanking Hashem (includes: 1,4,5,7,8)
7) utilizing our time better (includes 2,3,4,5,6,8)
8) beig happy with what we have (includes: 1,3,4,5,6,7)
regarding the trait for next week: what ever is choosen is fine by me. :o)