Let’s Work Together On 1 Middah
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January 23, 2009 2:44 pm at 2:44 pm #589194
Can we start working on 1 Middah Together every week?
Thank You,January 23, 2009 3:47 pm at 3:47 pm #665406areivimzehlazehParticipant
unfortunately, there are so many to choose from…. everybody is gonna have a suggestion of their own. Do you think this thread will stay civil?
Being that we have so many experts in the CR re: t’filla- can we start with that? Any aspect of itJanuary 23, 2009 4:13 pm at 4:13 pm #665407smartcookieMember
Nice idea. I can try. suggestions anyone?January 23, 2009 4:20 pm at 4:20 pm #665408
Any one with a Good Middah to work on???, not too hard ;)We will im”h work every week on a differnt middah….. with hashems help..January 23, 2009 5:11 pm at 5:11 pm #665409
How about making 1 person a day happy, by giving him/her compliment, smile, call etc..???January 23, 2009 5:14 pm at 5:14 pm #665410squeakParticipant
And after a week we give up and move on to a different one?January 23, 2009 5:51 pm at 5:51 pm #665411RoshYeshivahMember
squeak you remind me of a story.A person is trying to chap a hitch so he sticks out his hand and after awhile a guy pulls over and says”What a pity it’s not last week when i was working on chesed ,this week i’m working on feeling other’s pain- so i feel very bad that you don’t have a ride!” and with that he drove off!January 23, 2009 6:13 pm at 6:13 pm #665412beaconParticipant
That was you, ames? Thank you my dear you got a big mitzvah…January 23, 2009 6:17 pm at 6:17 pm #665413areivimzehlazehParticipant
hey- charlie hands out compliments in the CR like it’s goin outta style. Oh- that was a compliment- i’m done. Outta hereJanuary 23, 2009 6:36 pm at 6:36 pm #665414SJSinNYCMember
really cool idea, unfortunately i’m perfect in every way
Maybe lets start with humility 🙂January 23, 2009 6:49 pm at 6:49 pm #665415kiruvwifeMember
ayin tovaJanuary 23, 2009 6:57 pm at 6:57 pm #665416
squeak, you know what you remind me of? A little girl started calling her grandmother every Friday to wish her good shabbos. Well, after a while she stopped doing it and her grandmother asked her why she stopped calling. She very innocently answered, “Bubby, the contest in school is over.”
~a~January 23, 2009 6:58 pm at 6:58 pm #665417AL2Participant
ames- now that I’m officially nominated as Rebbe, I hope you don’t mind but how about if we start with Ga’avah? 🙂January 23, 2009 7:01 pm at 7:01 pm #665418charlie brownMember
thanks for the compliment. I have to compliment you on the way you gave a compliment even though it doesn’t come easy. 🙂January 23, 2009 7:41 pm at 7:41 pm #665419oomisParticipant
I would work on my humility, but it has already gotten as good as it gets 😉January 24, 2009 10:53 pm at 10:53 pm #665420notpashutMember
How about laitzonus.January 25, 2009 4:18 am at 4:18 am #665421shkoyachMember
lets stick to the first one and then we will go veiter each week.
ok— I guess i’ll have to be nice to s/o tomoro… shucks, I hate being nice 😉 j/kJanuary 25, 2009 4:24 am at 4:24 am #665422
I have something that we can do everyday: buy yourself a notebook and every day/night write one page of thank You Hashem for….. And u list everything u appreciate. U really come to be a better and more appreciative person. 🙂January 25, 2009 4:43 am at 4:43 am #665423
syriansephardi: that’s a really nice idea!!! i like it!!!
shkoyach: ha ha!! remember i was nice to ya & cleaned your can, do i have to also be nice tomorrow???January 25, 2009 5:02 am at 5:02 am #665424
Thanx ames and asdfghjkl!January 25, 2009 5:09 am at 5:09 am #665425AL2Participant
Here’s a challenging one. How about not answering back if someone says something to you that you dislike, get embarrassed, etc…. Self control is tough, but mightily worth it. I believe someone who doesn’t answer back in such a situation has a great power to give Brachos. (Don’t know the Passuk offhand)January 25, 2009 5:21 am at 5:21 am #665426mazal77Participant
Ezeh who ha’ashear?? Ha somayach b’cheilko. Who is the wealthy one?? He who is happy with his lot. Along the lines of syrian. It also encompasses Hakorot HaTov. thankul to Hashem for what we have already.January 25, 2009 5:28 am at 5:28 am #665427
Ames and asfghjkl: thanx!
Asdfghjk: you always SHOULD be nice (don’t know if u HAVE to be nice)January 25, 2009 5:43 am at 5:43 am #665428jam19Member
valuing precious time. ( time equals life- use it wisely, and dont waste it on shtusim in the coffee room)
my suggestion: if you spend (for example) everyday 20 minutes on the coffee, cut it down to 10, and use those extra 10 minuted on chesed, tefillah,…..etc… you decide 🙂January 25, 2009 5:55 am at 5:55 am #665429
how about chesed, it’s something we could all apply to our day & then talk about how we did it later that day/night???January 25, 2009 6:48 am at 6:48 am #665430shkoyachMember
ok I was nice tonight.. I was really tempted to be obnoxious to someone tonight and I held back cuz I said I wouldn’t want them to do that thing to me and this week the middah is being nice so I didn’t and I am extrememly proud of myself, thank you! And they have NO IDEA what I almost did hehe 🙂
How abt we take syrians idea in a different way. We should get a notebook and in it write down each day that week things we did to fit into the midah of the week like for this week every page will have things we did nice for ppl. next week could write abt anivus that we worked on each day etc. as for a vort on tikun midos check out my vort on dvar torah page (i have no oclue how to link it to this page)
Asdf- aww… you were so nice and I am thnking you once again. now you can be nice and gice me a wake up call cuz I am so tired from going to sleep every night at 2 in the am cuz this ridiculous coffee addiction with lots of sugar and milk!!!
you can also be nice and take care of all the things I gotta do. All others that want to help and be nice- please join. i’ll be the chessed of the day 😉 j/k.January 25, 2009 1:24 pm at 1:24 pm #665431PhyllisMember
True story- I heard of a teacher that was teaching her class about saying thank you to parents for everything they do. Before school was over on Thursday, the teacher told the girls to try and than their mothers for the suppers they prepare. She joked with them – of course dont tell ur parents that your teacher told u to say thank you.
One Monday when the girls came back to school the teacher asked them how many of them remebered to thank their mothers after supper. So girls raised their hands and said how happy their mothers were. One girl raised her hand and said, ” I kept thanking my mother over shabbos, so she asked me ‘why are u thanking me so much lately’, to which I answered ‘my teacher said I am not allowed to say.'”!!
I thought this was adorable!
But thanking other people is great Middah. Notice the small things. Everyone loves to feel appreciated.January 25, 2009 3:07 pm at 3:07 pm #665432jphoneMember
I’m going to work on my waistline.January 25, 2009 3:56 pm at 3:56 pm #665433
AL2 – don’t remember this stuff but the pussuk had something about the sun in it – k’tzais hashemesh bigvuro or something?January 25, 2009 5:09 pm at 5:09 pm #665434
AL2: wen someone insults u or makes fun of u and u don’t answer back, go into a private corner and ask Hashem for whatever u need!!January 25, 2009 5:27 pm at 5:27 pm #665435
hey so i wasn’t that far off – where’s my rebbe?!January 25, 2009 5:45 pm at 5:45 pm #665436
by the way, what was that “something, something, something”January 25, 2009 6:03 pm at 6:03 pm #665437
hey you’re better than i am and you’re a girl. how much does that say?January 25, 2009 6:08 pm at 6:08 pm #665438
shkoyach: your welcome again!!! i called the front desk to give ya awake up call!!!January 25, 2009 6:27 pm at 6:27 pm #665439
I say all lol!January 25, 2009 7:25 pm at 7:25 pm #665440CuriousMember
I go with “not wasting time”. Try boycotting the CR for a week!
Don’t like that idea? Didn’t think so. Then I’m with jphone’s idea 🙂January 25, 2009 7:26 pm at 7:26 pm #665441
ames: 7 what???????January 25, 2009 8:11 pm at 8:11 pm #665442jphoneMember
“Then I’m with jphone’s idea :)”
Actually, with my waistline the size that it is, middos is probably more accurate 🙂January 25, 2009 8:27 pm at 8:27 pm #665443
ames: sorry i missed yur earlier poast!!! i vote #3-chesed to others!!!!January 25, 2009 8:27 pm at 8:27 pm #665444
Ill boycott it for a week!!January 25, 2009 8:44 pm at 8:44 pm #665445
ames: ha yeah!!! then #7 it is!!!!!!!!!!!!January 25, 2009 8:46 pm at 8:46 pm #665446
no WAY! i can’t do #7! my whole life is one big fat time killer.January 25, 2009 8:48 pm at 8:48 pm #665447
asdf, your post disappeared from the shidduch thread. Oh well, drug bust, I guess.
~a~January 25, 2009 8:51 pm at 8:51 pm #665448
I guess anyone like me who spends their days and wastes their nights here should be working on #7.
~a~January 25, 2009 8:54 pm at 8:54 pm #665449
you SPEND days and WASTE nights? what’s the difference?January 25, 2009 8:57 pm at 8:57 pm #665450
During the day, I could say that it’s ok bec I have “nothing” to do, but at night, different story. I have to be up early in the morning and staying up til three doesn’t increase my work performance in any form or fashion. That’s waste!!!!
The truth is, it’s all waste. An addiction that I can’t break….. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
~a~January 25, 2009 9:08 pm at 9:08 pm #665451
ames- thanks. that’s how i got to age 16. now lets see if it gets me any further.January 25, 2009 9:10 pm at 9:10 pm #665452
anonymisss: i guess that’s why i had a problem following jaymatt’s post!!! drug bust!!! i wish i knew what post it was!!!!January 25, 2009 9:14 pm at 9:14 pm #665453beaconParticipant
Anyone who is on here should be voting 7, but I’m going to go with #4 too.January 25, 2009 9:17 pm at 9:17 pm #665454YW Moderator-72Participant
I am voting for this:
8) being happy with what we have
because if a person is happy with what they have, many other pieces of the puzzle fall into place.
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