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  • #589194

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    Can we start working on 1 Middah Together every week?

    Thank You,

    #665406

    areivimzehlazeh
    Participant

    unfortunately, there are so many to choose from…. everybody is gonna have a suggestion of their own. Do you think this thread will stay civil?

    Being that we have so many experts in the CR re: t’filla- can we start with that? Any aspect of it

    #665407

    smartcookie
    Member

    Nice idea. I can try. suggestions anyone?

    #665408

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    Any one with a Good Middah to work on???, not too hard ;)We will im”h work every week on a differnt middah….. with hashems help..

    #665409

    APushetaYid
    Participant

    How about making 1 person a day happy, by giving him/her compliment, smile, call etc..???

    #665410

    squeak
    Participant

    And after a week we give up and move on to a different one?

    #665411

    RoshYeshivah
    Member

    squeak you remind me of a story.A person is trying to chap a hitch so he sticks out his hand and after awhile a guy pulls over and says”What a pity it’s not last week when i was working on chesed ,this week i’m working on feeling other’s pain- so i feel very bad that you don’t have a ride!” and with that he drove off!

    #665412

    beacon
    Participant

    That was you, ames? Thank you my dear you got a big mitzvah…

    #665413

    areivimzehlazeh
    Participant

    hey- charlie hands out compliments in the CR like it’s goin outta style. Oh- that was a compliment- i’m done. Outta here

    #665414

    SJSinNYC
    Member

    really cool idea, unfortunately i’m perfect in every way

    Maybe lets start with humility 🙂

    #665415

    kiruvwife
    Member

    ayin tova

    #665416

    anonymisss
    Participant

    squeak, you know what you remind me of? A little girl started calling her grandmother every Friday to wish her good shabbos. Well, after a while she stopped doing it and her grandmother asked her why she stopped calling. She very innocently answered, “Bubby, the contest in school is over.”

    ~a~

    #665417

    AL2
    Participant

    ames- now that I’m officially nominated as Rebbe, I hope you don’t mind but how about if we start with Ga’avah? 🙂

    #665418

    areivim,

    thanks for the compliment. I have to compliment you on the way you gave a compliment even though it doesn’t come easy. 🙂

    #665419

    oomis
    Participant

    I would work on my humility, but it has already gotten as good as it gets 😉

    #665420

    notpashut
    Member

    How about laitzonus.

    #665421

    shkoyach
    Member

    lets stick to the first one and then we will go veiter each week.

    ok— I guess i’ll have to be nice to s/o tomoro… shucks, I hate being nice 😉 j/k

    #665422

    I have something that we can do everyday: buy yourself a notebook and every day/night write one page of thank You Hashem for….. And u list everything u appreciate. U really come to be a better and more appreciative person. 🙂

    #665423

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    syriansephardi: that’s a really nice idea!!! i like it!!!

    shkoyach: ha ha!! remember i was nice to ya & cleaned your can, do i have to also be nice tomorrow???

    #665424

    Thanx ames and asdfghjkl!

    #665425

    AL2
    Participant

    Here’s a challenging one. How about not answering back if someone says something to you that you dislike, get embarrassed, etc…. Self control is tough, but mightily worth it. I believe someone who doesn’t answer back in such a situation has a great power to give Brachos. (Don’t know the Passuk offhand)

    #665426

    mazal77
    Participant

    Ezeh who ha’ashear?? Ha somayach b’cheilko. Who is the wealthy one?? He who is happy with his lot. Along the lines of syrian. It also encompasses Hakorot HaTov. thankul to Hashem for what we have already.

    #665427

    Ames and asfghjkl: thanx!

    Asdfghjk: you always SHOULD be nice (don’t know if u HAVE to be nice)

    #665428

    jam19
    Member

    valuing precious time. ( time equals life- use it wisely, and dont waste it on shtusim in the coffee room)

    my suggestion: if you spend (for example) everyday 20 minutes on the coffee, cut it down to 10, and use those extra 10 minuted on chesed, tefillah,…..etc… you decide 🙂

    #665429

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    how about chesed, it’s something we could all apply to our day & then talk about how we did it later that day/night???

    #665430

    shkoyach
    Member

    ok I was nice tonight.. I was really tempted to be obnoxious to someone tonight and I held back cuz I said I wouldn’t want them to do that thing to me and this week the middah is being nice so I didn’t and I am extrememly proud of myself, thank you! And they have NO IDEA what I almost did hehe 🙂

    How abt we take syrians idea in a different way. We should get a notebook and in it write down each day that week things we did to fit into the midah of the week like for this week every page will have things we did nice for ppl. next week could write abt anivus that we worked on each day etc. as for a vort on tikun midos check out my vort on dvar torah page (i have no oclue how to link it to this page)

    Asdf- aww… you were so nice and I am thnking you once again. now you can be nice and gice me a wake up call cuz I am so tired from going to sleep every night at 2 in the am cuz this ridiculous coffee addiction with lots of sugar and milk!!!

    you can also be nice and take care of all the things I gotta do. All others that want to help and be nice- please join. i’ll be the chessed of the day 😉 j/k.

    #665431

    Phyllis
    Member

    True story- I heard of a teacher that was teaching her class about saying thank you to parents for everything they do. Before school was over on Thursday, the teacher told the girls to try and than their mothers for the suppers they prepare. She joked with them – of course dont tell ur parents that your teacher told u to say thank you.

    One Monday when the girls came back to school the teacher asked them how many of them remebered to thank their mothers after supper. So girls raised their hands and said how happy their mothers were. One girl raised her hand and said, ” I kept thanking my mother over shabbos, so she asked me ‘why are u thanking me so much lately’, to which I answered ‘my teacher said I am not allowed to say.'”!!

    I thought this was adorable!

    But thanking other people is great Middah. Notice the small things. Everyone loves to feel appreciated.

    #665432

    jphone
    Member

    I’m going to work on my waistline.

    #665433

    moish01
    Member

    AL2 – don’t remember this stuff but the pussuk had something about the sun in it – k’tzais hashemesh bigvuro or something?

    #665434

    AL2: wen someone insults u or makes fun of u and u don’t answer back, go into a private corner and ask Hashem for whatever u need!!

    #665435

    moish01
    Member

    hey so i wasn’t that far off – where’s my rebbe?!

    #665436

    moish01
    Member

    by the way, what was that “something, something, something”

    #665437

    moish01
    Member

    hey you’re better than i am and you’re a girl. how much does that say?

    #665438

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    shkoyach: your welcome again!!! i called the front desk to give ya awake up call!!!

    #665439

    I say all lol!

    #665440

    Curious
    Member

    I go with “not wasting time”. Try boycotting the CR for a week!

    Don’t like that idea? Didn’t think so. Then I’m with jphone’s idea 🙂

    #665441

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    ames: 7 what???????

    #665442

    jphone
    Member

    “Then I’m with jphone’s idea :)”

    Actually, with my waistline the size that it is, middos is probably more accurate 🙂

    #665443

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    ames: sorry i missed yur earlier poast!!! i vote #3-chesed to others!!!!

    #665444

    Ill boycott it for a week!!

    #665445

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    ames: ha yeah!!! then #7 it is!!!!!!!!!!!!

    #665446

    moish01
    Member

    no WAY! i can’t do #7! my whole life is one big fat time killer.

    #665447

    anonymisss
    Participant

    asdf, your post disappeared from the shidduch thread. Oh well, drug bust, I guess.

    ~a~

    #665448

    anonymisss
    Participant

    I guess anyone like me who spends their days and wastes their nights here should be working on #7.

    ~a~

    #665449

    moish01
    Member

    you SPEND days and WASTE nights? what’s the difference?

    #665450

    anonymisss
    Participant

    During the day, I could say that it’s ok bec I have “nothing” to do, but at night, different story. I have to be up early in the morning and staying up til three doesn’t increase my work performance in any form or fashion. That’s waste!!!!

    The truth is, it’s all waste. An addiction that I can’t break….. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    ~a~

    #665451

    moish01
    Member

    ames- thanks. that’s how i got to age 16. now lets see if it gets me any further.

    #665452

    asdfghjkl
    Participant

    anonymisss: i guess that’s why i had a problem following jaymatt’s post!!! drug bust!!! i wish i knew what post it was!!!!

    #665453

    beacon
    Participant

    Anyone who is on here should be voting 7, but I’m going to go with #4 too.

    #665454

    YW Moderator-72
    Participant

    I am voting for this:

    8) being happy with what we have

    because if a person is happy with what they have, many other pieces of the puzzle fall into place.

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