ames & all: i would like to talk a little about our previous middah of the week(which we all should still be working on)”not to hurl back insults”:
this is something that i have been working on for some time now, even before we started it in this thread. i just wanted to fill you in that B”H, i’m doing much better at this. i recently heard that one who holds back from hurling insults is compare to the Shemesh, who did not hurl comments to the Moon by Brias Haolom, when the Moon said he wanted to be an equeal with the Sun in size! the sun held back commenting on this and stayed the center of the world-the earth revorves around the sun & if not for the sun’s ray’s we all on earth would not be able to survive on this planet! thus proving good things come out of not hurling insults, or even comments when we feel we could just run on mouths when we get a chance in anger!
i’ll be short with a story here, an israeli couple didn’t have children for many years(over 20yrs) & went to a Rav for a Bracha. they told the Rav they wanted more then just a Bracha, the Rav says when you meet a person that is able to not hurl insults back to a person when put in that matziv, ask that person for a Bracha, that that person is compared to the shemesh-the apitamy of this middah-with full Emuna, & a Bracha from such a person would be mikuyam-even more so than a Bracha from me[the Rav’s]! the wife of this couple 2 years later is at a wedding/bar mitzvah & hears someone in public being yelled at & cursed out at! the wife of the childless couple, runs over to the woman being cursed out at in public & says to her please don’t say anything, i’ll explain it to you after, i beg you! so the woman says nothing while being cursed at. the childless lady expalins to the other lady, that was just being cursed at, about what the Rav had told her. about getting a Bracha from someone who didn’t hurl back comments when put in that situation & their Bracha being mikuyam for them to have a child! the woman gives the childless lady a Bracha for children & with in the year, has a child!
this is from Rav Pesach Kron(if anything in here seems slightly different from the version you heard, please let me know, i’m typin this patt 2am & need to find my bed)