Rivkib I’m glad you were able to shelter your children until they were 16-17. However the reality is that we live in galut, its the price that we pay living amongst goyim. My 3 year old knows that he cannot behave the same way as the cleaning ladies, he knows that on shabbat he can’t turn on the light only the goy can. We cannot pretend that the goyim world does not exist, otherwise the day that they enter that world(trust me one day they will have to leave the bubble) can be a very big shock to them.
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