Happy girl: I agree with you which is why I’m willing to deal with a shadchan on occasion. I just think that there needs to be a better way for a shadchan to match people up. It would be cool to have a database system (kind of like shidduch world) that had a questionnaire singles would fill out and it would automatically find potential matches for them on a continuing basis until they mark themselves as unavailable. The hard part is deciding what questions to put on it b/c everyone has different opinions of what’s important. Maybe you could have a basic section and the questions you’ll be asked next will depend on your answers, so a working boy may get one set of questions and a learning boy another.
“I dated a few guys who said they use singles events as “comedy clubs” to see all the “poor” girls out there and then they talk about it with their friends and have a good laugh.”
Wow, so not only were they total jerks but they didn’t even try to hide it, you were right to get rid of them. It is true that there are some great guys out there but honestly IMO not that many, I consider myself to be the best guy I know and I’m not that great, JK (sort of). So if you do meet one you like do yourself a favor and don’t stop going out with him over something stupid.