jewishandworking22: I don’t have any problem with you approaching girls on your own, whatever works for you. The reason people deal with a Shaddchan has nothing to do with not being mature, in more yeshivish circles approaching a girl directly is typically not done and if you’re looking for that type of girl you’re not going to find her by walking up to her on the street. The fact is that this system works for a lot of people so there’s no reason to completely change it.
oomis1105: How many girls do you think would be comfortable explaining to a boy why they don’t want to go out again after just one or two dates? I’m guessing not that many, at least until they’ve been dating for a few years.