The place where both of you decide to on the Shidduch sets the tenor. Zoos and Kosher Ice Cream Parlors (for example) are public fun places to meet. Keep the first meetings relaxed (no longer then an hour and a half) by concentrating on getting to know the other person, asking about their individual family essentially their growing up experience. Do not talk about marriage goals at this time (save this for later meetings if this is the case), personal chemistry is more important. Do I feel comfortable around the other person, if you have doubts talk to your Rav. or the Shadchan whether to proceed or end the Shidduch.
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