Sometimes it is not the Yetzer Hara that causes problems, but the best of intentions that parents have when raising their children. Not every child can be raised in a “best” yeshivah, and not every person is meant to follow the path that every other child in the family does. For every Yissachar who learns, there is a Zevulun who perhaps does not, but helps support the learning done by others. Maybe this brother does not have a head for learning. That does not invalidate him as a good Yid, and should not impact negatively on his sister’s chances for a shidduch of her choice. It is because of this type of thinking that people are not often upfront about issues in their families.
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