The default position is to marry a working man and no Jewish woman should feel that she is less Jewish because she wants a working husband.
The Torah makes it clear that supporting the family is the husband’s responsibility, and this responsibility is spelled out in the Kesubah every Jewish woman receives.
He who learn in Kollel only does so because of an ideal both the husband and wife share; and then only during the Mechilah (forgoing of one’s rights) of the wife.