I think the entire chinuch system needs an overhaul.
How many “best boys” and “next rosh yeshiva” are there in every yeshiva? Whatever the number, it is a small percentage. How many fine ehrliche boys that would make wonderful husbands are there in yeshiva? Certainly not all, but a high percentage.
How many “best girls” and “the next rosh yeshivas wife” are there in every seminary? How many wonderful fine upstanding girls are there in every seminary?
If everyone would be taught that its ok if your not the next “best guy” and “rosh yeshiva” and its ok if you dont marry the “best guy” and “next rosh yeshiva” and its ok if your wife was not the “best in the seminary” things would be so much better.
Since everyone is expected to be the best guy/next rosh yeshiva and is expected to marry the best girl/next great rebbetzin and the girls only want the best guy/next rosh yeshiva , nobody looks for an ehrlicher boy or fine girl.
Sure, everyone should strive to be the best, but its ok if they are not the “best boy in the yeshiva” but they should be “the best boy that they can possibly be in the yeshiva”. Same with the girls.