In my experience, It is a total mailoh for a guy to date a girl who is already out of
seminary for a year or two. It is also safer bet, as far as having a long term marriage, for has a bigger chance of meeting the real girl, already fizzled out
of her seminary, “Reality Distortion”. Let me explain that term.
I don’t C”V think seminaries brainwash their girls C”V. as I miswrote earlier.
I simply mean they pump them up with very high aspirations & expectation etc..
not the worst thing in the world, however, some girls buy into thinking they’re at levels they might not actually be on. (not being so honest with themselves) & not taking the real world/reality of things into consideration. I think this is a problem with the boys as well, (Rosh Yesivah/Gadol Hador syndrome)
So in conclusion, when a boy dates a girl that is out of seminary for a year or two,
reality starts to sink in, her own personality shines through & she is forced to come to terms that she isn’t the best thing since sliced bread, & that she doesn’t need
the biggest masmid/lamdan of her city/country. Perhaps she wants to raise a family
in a few years, & not be a speech therapist/special educationer, Ad Meah V’esrim
Shonah,(till 120.) Plus she gets to mature a little more (if thats Shayich 😉 )
So Bochurim, Please Do Not grab the youngest girl just because you were told so,
by your friend, (who does’t know squat) or parents who are just following the crowd.
Take a girl who wont surprise you in few years leaving you thinking, who is she?