melechalmaklo, may I respectfully disagree.
“going back to the topic of saying no to dates…firstly, i do not agree that the boys say no after dates. most of the time, probably 80% of the time, the girls say no. It’s the boys who are being rejected. The reason for this is the shidduch crisis itself. When a boy says yes to a girl, he looked into five or ten other girls and said yes to the one that fit what he was looking for most. When he goes out, there is already a bigger chance that he will like the girl after her resume passed his cross examination. Just the fact that a boy says yes is already a big push for a girl to go out. Of course girls don’t just go out with everyone who says yes, but there is MUCH less room for nixing. So, of course, when boys and girls go out the girls say no. There wasn’t much pulling her from the beginning!……”
Interesting theory, but we must be living on different planets. I’ve made in excess of 150 dates in the last year. Once a guy is 27 or older, he has already dated close to, if not more than, 100 girls, in most cases and been “red” and rejected many more. After that he goes on dates wanting one girl’s looks, the other girls personality and the next girl’s family, and yet the other girl’s career/ambition/lack of ambition. The girls cant win, no one girl has it all, and the guys continue on their “not so merry” go round dating, not wanting to settle because they always have new girls ready to date them! Girls get older and have less and less opportunities, and older boys often get engaged to much younger girls, and the guys know it.