Yes, I know all about the “heteirim” to do so, but how does a person expect to begin a healthy relationship based on a lie?
It’s a tough call.
I know of a single who was looking for someone “from 25 to 35.” I then asked her what if someone who was 36 came along but would otherwise make you happy, would you turn him down?” The answer I got was no, which shows that while people specify age, it’s not always a red line issue. If all other things are good, they may be willing to move a year or two in the other direction. However, when searching a database, the single would have chosen 25 to 35 and would never have seen the 36 year old who might have made her happy. As a result, I can understand why people lie about their ages on line by a year or two.
That being said, while I understand it, I don’t condone it. I agree with you, Yanky, that a marriage is based on trust and lying about one’s age is a lousy way to start a marriage. I would probably have a real difficulty marrying someone who lied to me about something as elemental as their age. I’d also question their intelligence for lying about something that in the end will have to come out in the open anyway — it’s not like she can really keep her true age hidden (in the U.S.).
The Wolf