I don’t know about estherhs neighbor. But why should we be complaining about doing mitzvot? Is that what you want your children to hear? Yes cleaning for pesach is not a lot of fun, but how many people were here last pesach and are not here now? Hashem should always send us health and life to be able to do all the mitzvot with simcha.
We shouldn’t judge anyone who is having a difficult time, but we should all thank hashem for the opportunity to do more mitzvot.