Just to add to the discussion, option 2 should have the additional argument (at least in the case of a learning boy) that there is some halachic point (I forget the exact details) that a boy shouldn’t interrupt his learning.
Option 3 doesn’t strike me as either fair or proper. As a practical matter it may play out that way anyways, but I don’t think it should be promoted or offered as a honorable approach to this issue.