It’s really a matter of what works for the particular couple.
Eeees and I dated for about three years before we were married. But that’s because when we met, I was only 18 and she was only 16. And today, many years later, we’re still very much in love.
OTOH, my sister did do the shidduch dating. She saw my brother-in-law for a limited number of dates over two months or so, and then became engaged. And you know what? They’re also very much in love today — many years later.
What worked for me might not have worked for my sister — and vice versa. As long as the people involved are comfortable enough with each other to get married (and they are both reasonable adults, of course), then that’s fine. The point is that there is no set “right number.” It varies from person to person – and you have to do what’s right for you.
The Wolf