BP Totty – “while my Rov / Rebbe is the person whom I and my famlily turn to for life’s complicated choices, he has very little impact on the person on the vaad, if that person is not from my kehilla. “.
You’re missing out on the essence of a Rav. A Rav has one major responsibility, and that is to do Chesed; everything else is extra. In addition, there can be no greater shaila to a Rav than in which Yeshiva to educate your child, and don’t sell your Rav short; he will very much become involved if he feels a particular yeshiva is the best for your child.