The problem with that is, my rov understands my / my familys hashkofoh needs, he is not up to date on secular education, which my boys also need.
Plus the fact that today’s kids attitues / outlooks are a blend of both parents, both sets of grandparents, numberous rebbeim, camp, ect.
My Rov’s outlook represents just one of the many influneces my boys are exposed to, so to say, “we’ll go with this choice” just because the Rebbe / Rov said so, takes more than we can muster.
That said, when it came down to 2 choices (after having done our homework) the Rebbe (not the Rov) made the decision. Both had its merits, but only one could be the winner.. and he picked it.
So I guess that the answer is, we rely on the Rebbe’s / Rov’s judgement when its not cut and dry, but for the most part choices are arrived at, based on the decision-making skills we (me, Mrs, kids) have developed as a result of listenoing / watching how the gedolim in our lives reached conclusins on similar situation.
Not an exact science, but it works for us