This isn’t really a debate………..It’s a question that I would like to find an answer to.
great! One technique you might find useful when someone is trying to give you an answer to a question that you would like to find an answer to is this.
Read the answer, try to imagine what they are trying to say, “try” to find merit in their answer. If you find a logical flaw in the answer, spend some time trying to come up with a way to solve the flaw. Actually try, see if you can understand their answer in a slightly different way than you originally did. If you just can’t get rid of what you originally felt was a logical flaw, then go ahead and ask for clarification. I find this useful when I want to learn something, you may not.