“The 9 days have started so what?”
There is a lecture from Rabbi Orlofsky on (Ithink this is proper spelling – I have it bookmarked and havent paid attention to the spelling in a while) torahanytime.com titled “the Bais Hamikdash is not here, who cares?” which attempts to help those who have the “so what” feeling and change it to a “oy vey”. It is worth the listen.