Wolf, I don’t agree with missme and my son’s Rosh Yeshiva happens to disagree with her as well. He says it is a beautiful way to start off the marriage but a parent is not mechuyav to work into their 80’s to support children who want to stay in Kollel. He also makes sure his “talmidim” understand that a wife is a “matonah” from Hashem and they should never take that gift for granted.
He maintains a very strong kesher with his talmidim and enforces a true concept of Shalom Bayis along with Torah in their homes.
One problem that I have with long term learners is that SOME and I’m not saying MOST, I”M saying SOME do not apply what they learn to every day life. They don’t do the mitzvas and maasiv tovim they are learning about, they just learn about it. In other words, they learn all day and all night but then when they finally pull their noses out of the sefer they have blinders on and don’t see the opportunities right in front of them. For all their learning they should know the right thing to do and do it. And that applies to helping their wives and being involved with their children as well. They have obligations to wives and children and learning does not absolve them of their obligations. So they need to make time for their families and spend quality time with them. They also need to help their wives and do it graciously. Learning Torah does not absolve them of doing the other mitzvos their are required to do.
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