emoticon613:
Stigma is wrong. However, the reason the stigma exists is NOT that the person went to counseling, rather it is the fear that the person will use the counselor as a crutch for life and therefore reveal personal details of married life too. Unless the sounseling was for a specific issue that the person was able to work through, people are very concened.
In your friend’s specific case, definitely she should have counseling. Unless she develops defense mechanisms to deal with her hurt, her marriage will be a disater. Plus, a family issue that affected her is of no fault of her own. Her chosson’s family will likely find out the family information when they check her out anyway. She stands a better chance at getting married by having someone explain how “She had some counseling to deal with her meshugah family”, rather than saying, “She thinks her family is totally normal and would love to continue in their footseps!”
hereorthere:
How would martial arts help???
The best therapy is learning ASSERTIVENESS, not martial arts.