The attitude of children “not wanting to have anything to do with” their parents is due to the children overlooking the positive and focusing only on the negative.
Squeak, I agree with you. Children do need to focus on the positive. It is sometimes very hard to see positive when there is so much overwhelming negative. When a child was so hurt by parents that they don’t want to have anythink to do with them, it is a high madreiga to see the positive – but for sure something to strive for. I hope one day I will have this madreiga.
On the other hand as parents, we need to remember to always look at the positive of our children and not to let their negative behavior – whether trivial or not – overshadow their positive aspects of what they do and what they are. It is VERY EASY to forget to truly see our children’s positive behavior.