If we keep choosing to LOOK for problems we can find problems wherever we look. However, if we choose to dan l’kaf zchus and stop finding fault in everything others do, we might realize that what we think is a problem really isn’t. That is what we call playing the “IF” game. IF the girls or women get into a heated discussion, and get rowdy and that draws attention to them, THEN it CAN BECOME a problem because MEN will look at them.
So IF we trust in the goodness and graciousness of Women and in the Bina Yeseirah that Hashem gave us, THEN we shouldn’t have the problems the CR keep worrying about where women are concerned.