mbachur, labels do nothing more than label you for purposes of putting you in a box for the convenience of others. Studies have shown that when schools label children those labels can stick to those children for the rest of their lives even if the child outgrows their issues. And the child is most likely to adjust more to the label than vise a versa at that time. In other words, “if they think I’m not capable then why should I try, I will just be the dummy they think I am.”
Labeling people only serves to justify YOUR OWN opinion of them and not necessarily verify who they really are. So for instance, the levush between a chassidish person on Shabbos is different than other sects and that is obvious. But when at work, a chassidish yungerman and a yeshivish yungerman who both have a beard and might have their peyos tied up behind their ears or under their yarmulka or cap, and both have a white shirt and black pants might be harder to distinguish. A Heimish man at work and a MO man both wearing blue shirts and caps might not look different until you see their yarmulka. A Heimish man who wears a leather yarmulka and an MO man who wears a leather yarmulka can’t be differentiated. And what is the point? They are all equally frum and follow the same Torah and Taryag mitzvos. So why do they need to be labeled? And why the need for this loshon horah. No it is not true that MO watch TV on Shabbos. Let’s put an end to that discussion. It is simply not true. If there are people who do that, and they happen to be MO, they are making up their own rules and they must have left the TV on before shabbos and do not change the channel just watch the same channel whenever they go into the room where the TV is on. NO that is not Shabbosdik behavior and neither is swimming on Shabbos which I have seen some Chassidim do in Miami, but that doesn’t mean that ALL Chasidim go swimming on Shabbos.
I have also seen many Chassidish women walk around the Pool area and even walk from the pool to the beach in their bathing suits without cover-ups in Maimi. Does that mean that it is acceptable among Chassidim for women to do that? Or for women to go mixed swimming in Miami? NOOOOOOOOO! But that doesn’t stop them from doing it when they are away from their daled amos! Is it fair to say that they look down upon us as if WE were goyim and they think it is ok to behave this way in front of goyim? That is the problem with LABELING!