Assuming so right is “talking to me”:
And are Vorts, large weddings, buying children apartments, etc. any different? They all stem from the same materialism (which we get from the Goyish culture around us) that all Torah Yidden should refrain from having.
The Gedolim have spoken against this ostentatious behavior. I don’t see how anyone who claims to “follow the Gedolim” can be for any of these items, including large Bas (or Bar) Mitzvos.