Why does a boy need a lavish party? I’m not talking about celebrating a boys bar mitzvah – celebrate him getting called to the Torah and taking on his Torah obligations.
But a party in a hall? With music and dancing? Whats different between a girl and a boy with that? Neither are necessary. Neither are actually a celebration of the mitzvah aspect. They are both JUST parties.
Which is why I think neither should have a catered party in a hall. I think it sends the wrong message to everyone.