If you are a believing Jew, you WILL agree with the following two points:
1. G-d has a great Master Plan in place for the entire world, and for every individual in this world.
2. The abovementioned Plan includes a spouse for everyone who is destined to get married.
(If you do NOT believe either #1, #2, or both, your problems are far greater than I can help you with. You need to find a qualified rabbi to discuss that issue.)
So why, then, are a great number of young men and women who are looking for their predestined match having so much trouble finding it?
A: WE DO NOT KNOW
This is such a devastating problem in our community that one can only assume that the cause of it is OUR shortcomings; this must be punishment for some community-wide sin. (The blame is definitely NOT placed on the shoulders of our singles; rather on our society at large.)
As a tip for those “in shidduchim”, we can definitely suggest letting go of prejudice such as yeshiva, seminary, family background, physical appearance, and yes, age as well… but let’s not blame numbers because we don’t want to accept blame ourselves. It is so much easier to spend time, energy, and the patience of others to research and preach about data that contradicts points #1 and #2 than to admit that we need to improve ourselves to bring merit upon our nation.
And before you tell me that G-d had it all worked out and we bumbling mortal fools came and wrecked His Plan, realize what you are saying about His omniscience and clairvoyance and decide yourself if that rebuttal is heresy.
May all searching singles find their spouse soon.