someone i know once told me a funny story that happened to them. THey were on the bus in E”Y and there was a group of MO kids taking some sort of trip together. (anyone out there MO, don’t take offence there are apparently different levels amongst the MO’s.)One boy asked the girl for her drink and he was about to take a sip, she urgently patted him on the shoulder, “stop, don’t forget to make a bracha” The person observing couldn’t help but ask them “i don’t understand, you make brachos, and your makpid on them but what about a BASIC? what about shomer negia?” to which they responded – “were not makpid on negia” as if it’s a chumra/not so chamur minhag. (there are different levels of minhagim.)You can’t pick and choose in yiddishkeit. We have to abide by EVERYTHING the Shulchan Aruch dictates.
Don’t think i don’t have my fine share of things i have to work on. However, this attitude towards yiddishkeit bothers me terribly.