Sacrilige, you are right. Young men need to know how to tell their wives, in a nice way, that too much hair is showing, their sleeves are a little too short, the skirt is a little too tight, etc.
While a young women is single it is the parents responsibility, once she is married it is the husband’s responsibility and if he doesn’t say something from day one, he won’t say anything later either.
During sheva brochos I called my son into my room and told him something regarding his new wife. He said “you tell her” I said it was not my place as the “shviger” to tell her it was his place. So he said her mother should tell her. I said her mother isn’t here and now that she is married I don’t think her mother will tell her. It is up to him to tell her. He didn’t. Well the way it started is the way it continued. My other son ranted and had a fit about it and why I don’t do anything about it.
A few years later he got married and during sheva brochos I called him into my room and told him the same thing about HIS wife. He said “you tell her” and there we went round two. So I called him a hypocrite. When it came to your brother and his wive you had so much to say on the subject but now that it is your wife you are a chicken to say anything? You are a hypocrite. He ran to my husband and told him that I called him a hypocrite. My husband asked why I did and he told him. So my husband said “I agree you are a hypocrite, you with your black velvet yarmulka and your tzizis hanging from your belt.”
And so it goes, I told my son-in-law to say something to my daughter. He said “I’m not telling her you tell her”, I said I already told her and she said “I have a husband”. He said “its not my place to tell her”. OH YES IT IS!