Perhaps I misunderstood your meaning, APY. I took it to mean that you need to be objectively tzanua in your life, because the people around you have very subjective conceptualizations of what tznius means. You were saying that BY girls should not have explained to them the workings of a man’s mind because it is not the ikkar. I believe it IS ikkar and there SHOULD be plain speaking to girls upon whom you want to impress those concepts. They SHOULD understand that Hashem designed men to have specific physiological responses to visual stimuli, and by them dressing in a certain way, they are encouraging those responses inappropriately (as opposed to when they are married to the man and not in niddah). I was disagreeing more with the idea that they should remain in the dark about thee things. It is the equivalent of “Because I said so!” and that does not fly with girls old enough to be getting married.
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