as so many of you said, its mentchlachkeit and not a chasuna issue.
Someone in the beginning said something about girls being so impolite and rude in E”Y. I just want to say, that they don’t even chap and realize it. It’s unfortunately part of their mentality. That’s why they’re called sabras. They come across harsh on the outside, but they REALLY care. I can’t tell you how many unbelievable ?? ???? ????? stories go on their, that i personally experienced. Of course there are those who have derech eretz, but those who don’t are the one’s that stick out. Also i’ve found, that it’s a bit better in places other than Yerushalayim. Bnei Brak and especially more “out of town” places in E”Y are more relaxed a bit, and the people are more respectful.