yanky, i feel your pain. i am also divorced and was told by several people to stay married because while getting divorced is easy (oh really?!) it is very difficult living divorced. also, i was told to think of shidduchim for my sons and to stay married for them. yes, being divorced is hard and being a single parent is hard, but i’d rather be a single mom to two children and not to three (when my ex was not beating me, he was fighting with my older son and cursing my younger son).Yes, wondering if the children are okay in divorced homes is a concern but in certain situations, like the one you painfully described, it’s better for them than seeing disrespect, animosity and abuse (and what you describe is abuse!!) And shidduchim? Wouldn’t you rather your children grow up in a stable one parent home than an unsettled two parent home? I finally divorced when my 12 year old raised his hand to hit me and said “Why can’t I? Daddy does it all the time!So,yes, I hear your pain and anochi eemacha b’tza’ar, but know you did the right and the best thing for yourself and your children!!!
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