Helpful-
That I had the answer. I am merely pointing out the reality. An answer? I wish.
Aries –
You’re right. Though I draw the line between mental illness and issues. A mental illness – even manageable must be revealed; worked out issues need not. But still, there is a real fear of being found out. Hopefully people will realize that 20% of us are seeing professionals at one or another and that not getting the help you need is far worse.
I once was involved in pushing such a shidduch through (she found out he had been abused, therapy),- she spoke to his a therapist a number of times, and they agreed to see him together and separately afterwards – and they are happily married.