Popa –
Sorry, you’re right. I mean emotional issues.
But you are also right; what is the geder of relevant. I don’t know; I suppose one could judge on a case by case basis.
And on thinking about, you are right, you do create a catch 22, because ultimately who wants to hide something that is a real part of you from your spouse – where there should be no secrets. And ultimately, the broken trust could be worse then anything else (you were in therapy for three years because_________ and you never told me?!!1- would ‘I spoke to my Rav, he said not to tell, and my therapist gave me a clean bill of health’ – suffice?)
I do not know. I see your point.