pba: hiding ones issue whether the issue is toenail fungus or anxiety?
If you think he is going to reject you over toenail fungus, you probably shouldn’t get married to him.
Haros – are u serious about the kittel question or are you mocking divorcees right after yom kippur?
Eclpise – you sound very bitter, but I understand why. If you don’t have kids you can move on. If you do and have custody -you can also move on. It will take time, but it can be reality if you work on it. I sometimes have to work on it everyday.
Sorry, you’re right. I mean emotional issues.
But you are also right; what is the geder of relevant. I don’t know; I suppose one could judge on a case by case basis.
And on thinking about, you are right, you do create a catch 22, because ultimately who wants to hide something that is a real part of you from your spouse – where there should be no secrets. And ultimately, the broken trust could be worse then anything else (you were in therapy for three years because_________ and you never told me?!!1- would ‘I spoke to my Rav, he said not to tell, and my therapist gave me a clean bill of health’ – suffice?)
I do not know. I see your point.
I agree, that is the way to say it; it is a catch 22.
It is a very hard situation. We have tried to sweep all the issues under the couch, but it’s starting to get a bit crowded.
Ultimately, there will have to be a communal acceptance of the realities of our world.