“Yes, our boys want to be attracted to their wives whom they will be faithful to till death. No, merely brains & middos alone won’t cut it.
That makes up hypocritical? silly silly”
It makes you hypocritical, when you have symposiums and wag your head at how mad the outside world has filtered into our lives. It makes you a hypocrite when you blast woman for being un-tzniusdik and being too attracting. It makes you hypocritical when you can only wear a white shirt and black pants because that is a “uniform” of a Jew and the outside isnt the ikkar. Want more examples?
I dont claim that you dont have to be attracted to your spouse but does your #1 criteria have to be, she/he has to make me feel a certain way (keeping this kosher).
“I think asking for a picture is usually in the girl’s favor (gives her a chance to attract him w/o all the objective factors)”
Objective Factors… Like what, a personality? A sense of humor? A brain? Really, I feel sorry for him, he may be subjected to that.