This system only works if the social system you’re in frowns on husband /wife interaction beyond the household essentials. Should Mrs. New Kallah want more than just a a domestic partnership, chances are she’s going to be flying solo.
BP Totty, those who had beshows never go on a couple only vacations, never out eat in resturaunts etc. They never ____fill in the blank with what you think non-exclusively domesticated couples do and see if there are couples who had beshows and never do these things.
You are painting these couples in one broad stroke. But we are ALL different. Yes there are even these couples who met at beshows who go to movies (not something I condone, but just proving a point).
I’m not saying that dating has no advantages. It definitely does. But looking at the overall dating v. beshows shidduch scene, I see overmelmingly that beshows are better. And not even only because of the shidduch scene but also beyond. I see people who dated for a long time find out stuff about there spouses AFTER marriage and they are not too happy.