MR- Actually in order to have a healthy emotional relationship the husband NEEDS to talk with his wife. That’s the whole purpose of Shana Rishona – to “hang out” together as you put it. It’s because a healthy relationship is based on communication and trust, and talking is the way we build communication. Of course you can “stam talk” too much but you need to just “stam talk” in order to have a healthy marriage.
it’s like small talk for politeness. It’s a way of building a relationship. No one wants to be viewed as a business partner in building a home. You want to be cared about, and that means that things that seem unimportant to the world, if they are important to the wife, they should be important to the husband. And vice versa.