didu – people are crazy thats the bottom line. Its not you its them, as someone who is currently single I see that the reason why there is a “shidduch crisis” is not because of an “age gap” or any thing else but rather because of peoples stupidity.
And to answer your original question, I believe that there is an organization that deals directly with Baalei Teshuva and people with a Baal Teshuva backgrounds it is called The Rebbitzens. I am not sure if they can help you but give it a shot!
G’luck!