As hurtful as shidduchim are, I think everyone needs to remember that Hashem decides who and when you are going to get married. I am b’H happily married to a FFB, but I had a very difficult time with shidduchim and was single for a long time. I am a BT for many years. I have friends that are BT and married BT, are FFB and married FFB, are FFB who married BT, and are BT who married FFB. I know girls from undesirable backgrounds who were married at 19 and girls from wonderful backgrounds who are still single and are 30+. I echoed most of the statements on the board for the many years that I was single, but b’H, I did not settle for anyone and my husband did not settle for me. Yes, there were shadchanim who said horrible things to me and people who would not go out with me because of my background. But I would not have been happy with them. The most important thing is to keep davening and believe that no one can take your bashert away from you. I never would have believed that my yeshivish husband would agree to go out, but b’H he did. Maybe the neighbors talked, but b’H it did not matter. Your shidduch will come at the right time. Just keep davening and Hashem will make it work.
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