As an FFB married to a BT, I can certainly sympathize with the situation of “oomis1105,” regarding non-observant Jewish relatives, as I have experienced similar issues, also.
I give BT’s 100% credit and admire them for deciding to become Torah-observant Jews.
But if a BT wants to marry an FFB, is the BT prepared to do the following (as “conservative” and “reform” violate the Torah and are therefore not Judaism) ?
1) Not attend “conservative” or “reform” weddings, bar-mitzvahs, and bas-mitzvahs (as their “rabbis” (and especially “gay” or women rabbis) are not rabbis, a double-ring ceremony is not a Jewish ceremony, and there is mixed seating and immodest dress and men and women dancing together to non-Jewish music), etc.) ?
2) Not attend C”V the marriage of a Jew to a non-Jew?
3) Not enter a “conservative” or “reform” temple?
4) Not eat in a non-Kosher home?
5) Insist that Jews dress and behave according to the Torah’s standards of Tznius, when making a Seudas Mitzvah (wedding, bar-mitzvah, etc.) ?
If C”V a relative, even a parent, asks a Jew to violate the Torah, the Jew must refuse.
So is the BT prepared to do this?
If not, why should an FFB want to marry you?